In some subjects I believe that society has gotten so confused on what is morally and realistically right, that even Christians have a hard time seeing the truth. We’re just as confused as they are.
And I’m here today to talk about one of those subjects. Love. The type of love that later may evolve into marriage. This subject has been so twisted and corrupted that nowadays it means something totally different from what it was supposed to mean.
How has love come to mean what it does today (That is, a sexual relationship based on mainly feelings and physical appearance.)? Well, I’m pretty sure media has played a big part in it.
Whether it is movies, books, music, etc., they have all in one way or another projected this false image of what love is. Now, I’m not saying that all books and all movies and all music is that way, but much of it is.
This, in part, is why so many marriages are torn apart. Because they expect marriage to be like an image that they have accepted as true from what they have been taught, but it is not.
The reality is that love is not at all like what the world has told us. It is something better, something more.
But where can we find the true meaning of love? We can start by going to the Bible. For who else could tell us more about love than the One who proclaims that He is love?
1 John 4:16
We know how much God loves us, and we have put our trust in his love. God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them.
What is love?
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
Love is now based on feelings and emotions between a man and woman and even between a man and man or woman and woman. It is not at all what it was supposed to be.
Yes, feelings and emotions play a part in love, but those types of things can’t be relied on to last. The love that Christ shows us is deeper than that.
His love is sacrificial. It’s everlasting.
I’m not claiming to know everything (I’m not married.), but if we could even begin to show that type of love in our marriages today, I believe we’d have a glimpse of what true love looks like. We’d begin to see the kind of love that God shows us. The kind of love that’s willing to make sacrifices. The kind of love that places others first before themselves. The kind of love that endures.
Don’t trust the world’s standards for marriage. Trust in God’s standards. Love is between a man and a woman. It certainly isn’t easy. But with God at the center of it, it’ll be going in the right direction. And that will lead to a long-lasting marriage.
But ‘God made them male and female’ from the beginning of creation. ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.
Maybe you are already married. Maybe, like me, you’re not. But let’s look for this kind of love in marriage or in the one we hope to have.